I’ve got two words today that I want to share with you. And yes, I wholeheartedly realize that they might trigger you, fire you up a little bit. And it’s entirely ok that they do. 

And those two words? Empowered Masculinity. 

Now… before all you beautiful, strong and powerful women out there gather up your lynch mob and come to knock down my door down and set me aflame, please let me explain for a moment. 

And guys – you especially better listen up. 

First off, this is not one of those messages that’s about to explain why it’s scary to be a man in this present day because of all the so-called men that keep dragging our name through the mud. Because that’s bullshit. It’s a crappy stance and it’s copping out on the real problems going on in our society.

However, I do believe we’re doing something drastically wrong. We’re allowing this narrative to push us around. We are getting a little soft. 

And who do you think that serves? Absolutely. No one. Not us, not our partners, wives, girlfriends, acquaintances, co-workers, supervisors, CEO’s…. No one. 

Let me give you an example. I have worked with my wife for around 5 years. She’s an incredibly strong, independent, confident (and sometimes feisty woman. Back in 2014, she started her own online service-based business after going from crummy hourly job to crummy serving job, attempting to find a niche that she aligned with. Instead, she used her own intellect and personal drive to create her own niche that became an incredibly successful business.

To the point that I was able to quit my 9-5 job and start working with her full time. Damn good situation, right? Work at home, work and spend all my time with my best friend. Legit freedom-based business. 

Except…. All of a sudden, I kind of started to realize that I was working for her. Whoa… a bit of a mindfuck.

I learned very quickly that my ego had to take a step back, all while still acknowledging that what I did to help was aiding in the success of the business. 

Now, I’ve always had a bit of a soft-spoken personality. And if I wasn’t careful, with her strong personality, she could easily walk all over me. However, at the same time, it was incredibly important for our relationship, our business and our own individual selves that I also maintain an amount of humbleness towards our situation.

There’s a balance. And in that space of balance lies the Empowered Masculine.

Because while she’s crushing the business during the day, course and content-creating, intuitively drawing in new ideas for offers, programs and more – there’s still the time around that when I know she still wants the masculine near her to build her up, honor her and treat her like the queen that she is.

So when I say Empowered Masculine, I’m referring to how we carry ourselves as men – confident, intelligent, mentally strong and capable of handling our business. 

But – and this is incredibly important – when I say confident, I don’t mean cocky. We’re not overconfident. Full of ego. I accidentally happened into a phrase one day when I was creating some content and it’s become one of my favorite quotes – 

Over-confidence is fear disguising itself as ego. Confidence is love – love of yourself and of those around you. Choose love.

Think about it – how do you think Jay-z and Beyonce interact. They are both their own individuals. They have their own projects, their own creative outlets.

But they sure wouldn’t be the power couple that they are without having each other to build one another up, be the support system to the other. 

I wholeheartedly believe in the idea of Empowered Feminine. I think humanity is far better with women standing strong, collectively. And I also think that the Empowered Masculine can help raise the Feminine even higher. 

And you know what happens then? It switches. The Empowered Feminine builds up, boosts the Masculine. And back and forth. 

Because it’s not one versus the other. It’s all for all. Believe that.